My better half with definitely be there! As long as its one of the dates listed above. She would not miss it, so tell your wife to come on and have some fun!
Also if kids will be allowed, My daughter and her friend would join the party they are 13 years old, but are plenty use to adult party’s with drinking, food, and adult conversation so they would not take away from the party.
Don’t get me wrong they do not drink them selves, just been around it a lot.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
